You’re mourning the wrong person.

For all the people out there writing your teary missives on Facebook or Twitter about the death of Michael Jackson, can I remind you of something?

Michael Jackson was a child molester. And even on the very outside chance that he was not a sexual deviant, he was without a doubt a child interferer who’s illness led to the emotional damage of untold children. Untold only because he had the resources to ensure we’d never know the extent of his shame. So we could always keep a tiny doubt; or rather the tiny hope that he really was a good guy. I couldn’t give a shit if he wrote pop tunes, arias, symphonies, blockbuster movies or the Bible. He was a pederast and a predator. If he were anyone else, anyone that had done the things he’d done, we’d be having a fuckin’ party right now. But because he wrote some snappy tunes, was a celebrity and had a tragic public life we mourn him? You’re got this all wrong.

Any person that could do something so henious as interfere emotionally, sexually or in ANY way in the life of a child deserves nothing from us; give him the millstone and toss him in the ocean. But we’ve danced around him for years, so comfortable making jokes about his predilictions but never having the balls to come out and say “HEY! We ought to burn this motherfucker, not worship him!” And now that he’s gone, his death will shield him forever more. We can go on assuming whatever we want about him, trusting to blind faith that he really was OK and all those children were just after his money. It’s pathetic and you’re one of his apologists, you should be ashamed.

I’m not glad he’s dead. I would have much rather gotten a confession from him than have him gone. People who do terrible things should have to live with their guilt, assuming they have any.

Let’s use the moment of his passing to shed a tear for his victims; for they are his terrible legacy. Let’s hope they’re getting the help, love and support they need. Focusing on those children is the only decent way to mark the death of Michael Jackson.

3 thoughts on “You’re mourning the wrong person.

  1. This is a tough call for me.

    I fully support, and share your outrage for the creepy, creepy madness that was Michael, and believe me, I am a HUGE supporter of child advocacy.

    However…however…

    Think for just a moment of the way the first few strains of “Billie Jean” made you feel as a kid, or how hard you tried to successfully do the moonwalk, or how you always made sure that all the lights were out before they played the “Thriller” video on the CHUM FM top 30.

    MJ was fucked up, and his horrific actions in later years ARE inexcusable, but the memory of listening to my dad warble “Man In the Mirror” off-key will always make my heart swell.

    And my toes will always inadvertently tap to “Blame it on the Boogie.”

    I think it’s hard to deny the contribution that the man made to music.

    And tragic that he didn’t make us realize the destruction and evil that are born out of the trappings of super stardom.

  2. I have to agree with Cat. I never respected him as a person, but as a musician he was an idol. I’ve had to separate the two and it’s the music that he could have made that I’m mourning. Like Jeff said to me today, it’s the end of an era. Partially good, partially bad.

  3. Even if he were an abuser, which I am almost certain in some way he was -he too was a victim. Certainly he was a victim of child abuse when he was a child, who knows what happened to him but from what has been revealed by his siblings is not good. Certainly he was also seriously mentally ill, even if you discount his possible pedophilia as mental illness -look at his face. Clearly he had Body Dysmorphic Disorder or a similar disorder- I’m not a doctor and I don’t even play one on the internet.

    I also don’t believe that you could hear Michael Jackson speak in any context such as an interview and think that he was fully competent, fully capable of being responsible for his own actions. I’m not sure how much screening he went through in his life, before the other trials, etc. Certainly his wealth and status protected him from some of the consequences of his actions, it also protected him from getting help. In the urge to protect his fame he was kept from even the mediocre help available for mental illness today. Maybe it would not have helped, and maybe it would have.

    But Michael Jackson certainly deserves our pity as well; so while we shouldn’t forget his victims, we also should mourn his life -the childhood he was denied, the man he should have become, and the years he’s been denied to grow and to possibly heal and make amends.

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